How to Save Time in Dating

Today I wanted to share some tips for how to save time in dating and meet your person sooner.

First, have a definite outcome and know exactly what you want.

I don't mean just making a list of what you're looking for in a person, but actually having a goal, such as creating an exclusive relationship.

You want to have one thing that you plug into the GPS and that you stick to.

If you change your direction every time there’s an up or a down in dating, you're going to end up walking in circles.

Having a specific goal is what helps us make decisions in dating. Decisions are steps forward.

Next, make sure that you have a specific process that you're following, and that resonates with you.

For example, what I teach is is to create an abundance mindset and create a date per week. Then, nourish those connections, filter them dates based on the five elements, and then take the step towards exclusivity.

What you want to do is make sure that you know what specific process you're following.

You may stop to reflect and notice you don’t have a process you are following. You are just kind of swiping and then unintentionally go on some dates with some people and we see what happens. All of that makes it take more time to get from where you are to where you want to go.

Think about getting to the top of a mountain. 

You have your goal, which is what you plugged into the GPS and your process is the map. 

Think about how much longer it would take to get to where you want to go without that map. 

It's doable, but it's going to be very confusing and frustrating, and it will take a longer time. 

Clarity comes from having a plan to get to where you want to go, trusting it, and implementing it.

Don't detour.

Don't detour from the map. A detour would be dating 40% guys or 10% guys. 

There's nothing inherently wrong with a detour, but we're talking about how to save time in dating. 

The fewer detours you have, the quicker you'll get there

Lastly, don't quit. Don't turn back. Don't pause for a month or six months or a year.

There are intentional dating breaks that we take to recharge and keep going, but we don't want to just disengage or decide it's not possible for us just because we experienced some challenges along the way. 

The fastest way to get to your destination is not quitting. 

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This content was originally published on the Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast. Listen on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.